When Someone You Love Is Drinking: A Guide for Caregivers and Family
Madeleine Zimmerman Madeleine Zimmerman

When Someone You Love Is Drinking: A Guide for Caregivers and Family

You already know how many were in the recycling this week, and you know roughly what time the evening turns, and you know which version of it you're bracing for before you've even gotten your coat off. Somewhere along the way you learned to read a room in about three seconds without appearing to look at anybody, which is a skill nobody trained you in and one you picked up the way people pick up a second language after moving somewhere they never planned to stay.

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Harm Reduction Therapy in Oklahoma
Madeleine Zimmerman Madeleine Zimmerman

Harm Reduction Therapy in Oklahoma

If you're the person who loves someone in that position, and you've spent a while looking for something to offer that isn't an ultimatum, there's a place for you here too. You don't need their permission or their participation to begin, which is the part most people don't realize until somebody says it out loud. I've written about that more fully in what actually helps when someone you love is drinking, but the short version is that you're allowed to get support for your own sake rather than as a strategy for changing them.

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